It’s been three months since my beautiful daughter Emily made her way into this world. I honestly feel like I could write a book on my experience so far. It’s probably been the craziest three months of my life and I wouldn’t change it for anything. There’s definitely been many highs, but there’s also been some lows. I’ve expected some things and there’s other things I haven’t expected at all. All and all, it’s been a wild ride. So, here’s what I’ve learned since having a baby.
The number one thing that’s changed since I’ve had my daughter is my relationships with some of my friends. This has been good and it’s also been bad. I have some amazing friends that have shown me nothing but support since I found out I was expecting, but there’s also people who told me they would be there once she was born and they haven’t been. It’s been eye-opening to say the least. People seem to think you change when you have a child, and you do, but it’s a good change, not a bad one. Yes, nights out will become less frequent and you may have to bring your child with you when you meet up for lunch, but that shouldn’t change a friendship. A good friend will want to be there for you during this new exciting chapter of your life, not avoid you and forget that you exist.
Family Is Everything
When you have a baby that has something wrong with them it can be very stressful. In my case, my daughter has a cow milk protein intolerance, which wasn’t diagnosed until she was seven weeks old. Those first seven weeks of her life were extremely hard on my partner and I, and it definitely nearly pushed us to breaking point. Luckily, we have a great family who always wanted to help. When you have a baby screaming into your face for at least six hours of the day, you’ll take all the help you can get. She’s perfect now, thank god, but we definitely wouldn’t have got through those tough weeks without the support of our family and friends.
It’s OK To Have A Bad Day
This was definitely something that took me a while to learn. Every day is not going to be perfect. Some days you just can’t parent. It’s too much, it’s overwhelming, its god damn hard. Like ourselves, babies have off days too, and on those days, life can be very difficult. We shouldn’t kick ourselves for feeling like we can’t cope. EVERY parents has been there. We just have to remember that bad days don’t last forever. There’s always going to be a better day ahead that will make the memory of the bad day just disappear.
There Isn’t Enough Hours In The Day
You don’t realise how much time you had until you have a child. Gone are the days where it takes five minutes to get ready and go to Dunnes to do the shopping. When you add a baby into the mix, it takes at least an hour to get you and baby ready. Expect at least two outfit changes before you step outside the door and a possible nappy explosion. I’ve learned in the past three months to never set an actual time to meet someone. It’s whenever my baby is fed, changed and happy. All things that can take a lot of time.
How Your Baby Looks Is More Important Than How You Look
I could count on both hands the amount of times I’ve used my own clothing to wipe up milk, drool, you name it from my daughters face and neck. I’ve also used my hand as a spew catcher on way too many occasions. You’ll do anything to stop them from ruining yet another outfit even if it means destroying yours.
Buying Clothes For Yourself Isn’t As Fun Anymore
Gone are the days when you’d go into Penney’s and spend an absolute fortune on yourself. Now, it’s all about the baby section. I have no self-control when it comes to my daughters wardrobe. She’s like my own little doll that I get to dress up and I adore it. Nothing brings me more joy than buying her a new dress or a cute baby grow. She’s only going to allow me to dress for so long, so I’m taking full advantage while I can.
The Love You Have For Your Baby Grows Everyday
Just when you think you can’t love them anymore than you already do, you do. She does something new everyday and I find my heart swelling with love and pride as each day passes. She has brought so much joy and happiness into my life, it really is impossible to put into words. I couldn’t be prouder to be her mother. I can’t wait to see what the next couple of months bring.